Was “horny”

 

 

Sex just happens, doesn’t
it? We do the deed, just because. That is why sexologists over the decades have
focused on the physical specifics – how we set about our coupling – and the
problems that arise when the machinery of the body or the brain somehow does
not co-operate with the mission.

 

 

http://news.independent.co.uk/world/americas/article2826212.ece

 

Revealed: the real reasons
why people have sex

By David Usborne in New York

Published: 02 August 2007

 

Sex just happens, doesn’t it? We do the deed, just because. That
is why sexologists over the decades have focused on the physical specifics –
how we set about our coupling – and the problems that arise when the machinery
of the body or the brain somehow does not co-operate with the mission.

 

Thanks to the hard work of two researchers at the University of Texas, however, we now know that
the "because" is rather more complicated than we thought. There are
myriad reasons why we have sex with one another, according to their paper,
published in the August issue of Archives of Sexual Behaviour.

 

Surprises abound. Who knew, for example, that there were people
who favour a bit of carnal canoodling as a means of getting closer to God,
challenging the notion that religion generally gets in the way of a good romp.
And forget the myth about headaches and turning your back on your partner in
bed. It seems that for some of us a headache makes sex a priority, because it
works better as a cure than Aspirin. David Buss, who co-authored the study with
his university colleague, Cindy Meston, said: "I was truly astonished by
this richness of sexual psychology."

 

Some of the reasons cited were hardly heartwarming, such as:
"I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease."
Happily, that appeared at the bottom of the reasons given by men and women.
Also low on the list was "to hurt an enemy".

 

Unexpected also was the proximity of Venus to Mars. In other
words, men and women do not diverge on the motivations for having sex as much
as you might think. Both genders ranked, "I was attracted to the
person" as reason number one for feeling the urge to merge. Indeed, 20 of
the 25 most popular reasons for coupling were the same for women as for men.
"It’s refuted a lot of gender stereotypes," suggests Ms Meston,
"that men only want sex for the physical pleasure and women want love.
That’s not what I came up with in my findings."

 

The authors began by asking a group of 444 men and women aged
17-52 to cite everything that had driven them to have sex in the past. They
came up with more than 700 reasons, which eventually got pared down by
eliminating duplications, to 237. Then a second group, this time of university
students, was asked to rank their reasons in order of importance, men and women
separately. It took five years to collate the results.

 

A total overlapping of the sexes there is not, however. Men seemed
to be more prone to have sex with a woman to gain bragging rights with their
friends afterwards and enhance their status. "Although I knew that having
sex has consequences for reputation, it surprised me that people, notably men,
would be motivated to have sex solely for social status and reputation
enhancement," Mr Buss said.

 

While feeling "horny" and "it’s fun" both made
it to the top ten for both men and women, the small matter of wanting to make a
baby did not. Other reasons that popped up included, "I was drunk",
"helps me fall asleep," "makes my partner feel powerful",
"burns calories", "to return a favour", "keep
warm" and "to change the topic of conversation". There was also
"Someone dared me."

 

Why do we need to know all this? To improve sex education and help
researchers to curb the spread of sexual diseases says Ms Meston. "You
need to know why people are having sex if you’re trying to put into place a
safe-sex programme," she said. "If you assume that people have sex in
the heat of the moment, then you can tell them to carry condoms. But if they
are doing it for revenge or because they want to enhance their social status,
then that will require a different strategy."

 

‘I was drunk’

 

20 reasons men gave…

 

Attracted to the person

 

It feels good

 

The person was a good kisser

 

It’s fun

 

Wanted to show affection to the person

 

Sexually aroused and wanted the release

 

Was "horny"

 

Wanted to express love for the person

 

Wanted to achieve an orgasm

 

Wanted to try out new sexual techniques

 

Turned on by person’s physical appearance

 

Wanted the pure pleasure

 

Was the "heat of the moment"

 

Desired emotional closeness

 

It’s exciting, adventurous

 

Person had a desirable body

 

It was a special occasion

 

Person had an attractive face

 

Hormones were out of control

 

It just happened

 

20 reasons women gave…

 

Attracted to the person

 

Wanted to show affection

 

Wanted to express love

 

Realised I was in love

 

In "the heat of the moment"

 

Wanted to please partner

 

Desired emotional closeness

 

Turned on by physical appearance

 

It was a romantic setting

 

Wanted to celebrate a birthday

 

Person was intelligent

 

Person seemed self-confident

 

Wanted to improve sexual skills

 

The opportunity presented itself

 

Got ‘carried away’

 

My hormones were out of control

 

It seemed like the natural next step

 

It just happened

 

Wanted to make up after a fight

 

I was drunk

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

… una bragueta prudente.

 

 

 

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